Gabrielle Alexa Noel (she/her, 30 year old) is a bisexual writer/author. More »
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Our mission is simple: in a world that is far more complex than traditional dating norms allow, we are creating a community for queer, kinky, polyamorous, monogamish, consensually non-monogamous people, as well as those who are simply curious and desire to expand their boundaries.
In our unstable social media ecosystem, connecting with me here –– on my personal website –– is the easiest way to keep up with me! For some reason, I have over 30,000 followers on Instagram & 14,300 on Twitter.
This is how I learned that my face is incredibly expressive. 😐
This is another Blind Date for the Truly show. That man they set me up with was so fine, literally, but he moved like mad far and I wasn't with it.
And we chatted about bisexuality & non-monogamy.
Written for The Independent - Not only has it been used to reward women who remain ‘pure’ with greater social capital, we’ve been pressured to center our entire sense of self-worth around a concept that isn’t real.
Written for LGBTQ Nation - Beginning a century ago, Black LGBTQ entertainers & writers expressed their identities freely. We have them to thank for much of our present society..
Written for Slate - Young people who identify as bisexual are statistically more likely to self-injure, and I was no exception.
Written for Killer And A Sweet Thing - When people are perceived as sexual objects, they’re viewed as something that can be used and discarded.
Written for Elle - “I was made out to be a very unlikable character and therefore, an unlikable person in people’s eyes,” she tells ELLE.com exclusively.
Written for The Huffington Post - “I was made out to be a very unlikable character and therefore, an unlikable person in people’s eyes,” she tells ELLE.com exclusively.
Episode 4, A Culture of Complicity: I talked to PBS host Zainab Salbi about objectification & being a social media personality.
Season 4, Episode 11: Chatted about whiteness, adult play spaces, and non-monogamy. How can a Black woman explore her sexuality in the midst of fetishization?
I shared what good sex means to me, and how intimacy has shifted for me since the pandemic began.
A reboot of the original Singled Out dating show on MTV where I competed for Are You The One? (MTV) alum Nour Fraij's heart. (Spoiler Alert: She didn't pick me & she was a lil racist so I wasn't beat up over it.)
"Gabrielle Alexa (HuffPo, Tinder), a sex positive writer/babe, joins the girls to talk about all things bacchanalian."
I got to sit down at the red table with my friend Jada, Willow, Gammy, & my friend Gabrielle Smith, so we could discuss non-monogamy. Willow came out as polyamorous!
I can't believe one quote in Cosmopolitan got cross-posted to the Swaddle lol.
How cool, they mentioned my book ––How To Live With The Internet And Not Let It Run Your Life –– in Buzzfeed.
An explainer for people figuring out an identity.
I'll send you bloggy bits and project updates, & we can stay connected if something happens to my social media accounts.
"The New York City–based creative recently published a collection of essays called How to Live With the Internet and Not Let It Run Your Life and has written for Cosmopolitan, Elle, Bitch, HuffPost, and Playboy."
"Gabrielle Alexa Noel, bisexual advocate, says it’s important to understand that [when the word 'dyke' was coined], all women who loved women — including those who also loved men (or other genders) — were considered lesbians and, therefore, would have been called dykes."
“'If you really prioritize alone time, if you don’t see yourself merging finances or moving in with a partner, and if you’re not interested in the institution of marriage, then maybe solo polyamory will be a good relational framework,' says Gabrielle Alexa Noel, director of marketing and lead portal developer at #open."
“'The Lesbian Masterdoc, in particular, is viewed as like, the Sapphic Bible in some spaces and a lot of what is written there just imposes a label on experiences and behaviours that can also be bisexual/pansexual/queer,' explains bisexual author and advocate Gabrielle Alexa."
"Gabrielle Noel has made it her mission to make people 'be more aware of the B’s and the T’s in this umbrella community.'"
"I''ve been encouraged pretty much my whole life to be humble... I'm fearful of being read the wrong way, and it just clicked for me recently that I don't want to subscribe to that anymore."
“It’s not enough that [businesses] slap rainbows on a few shirt. Are they creating an intentional product? Are they giving their money to LGBTQ+ folks? Otherwise... why bother?"
“To me, the term bi-curious reflects a belief that orientation is something you have to explore sexually and romantically before it's real, which I disagree with."
"Bicon (ahem, bisexual icon) Gabrielle Alexa Noel, creates content specifically for people who identify as bisexual and their supporting allies."
Written for Playboy - "The downfall of R. Kelly happened piecemeal at first, then came down like a hammer this week after an interview he did with Gayle King hit the airwaves."
Written for The Independent - "The disgraced comedian's victims deserve better than for us to let him slip quietly into the space he once occupied."
Written for Black Youth Project - "Our legal system not only failed to protect the New Jersey 7, it criminalized them, and the media tarnished their reputations to boot. "
Written for VICE - "There's no way for us to know if Ariana Grande is queer or not unless she tells us, and the act of speculating based on her music only perpetuates attitudes that contribute to the erasure of bisexual women."
Written for Elle - "Politically and religiously, I understood that same-sex relationships were seen as a moral failing in our culture. I planned to remain straight-passing for my entire life."
Written for INTO - "We are marginalized in both straight and queer communities. We are seen as indecisive, greedy, promiscuous, dishonest, confused, and even sexually indiscriminate."
I chatted with author/writer & content creator Yana Tallon-Hicks about sex education, pleasure, & her upcoming book HOT AND BOTHERED: How To Have The S*x You Want.
For #open, I sat down with Anti-Mononormative, a content creator and critical-social psychologist expanding the conversation around non-monogamy, polyamory, and relationships in general. We talked a lot about how mononormativity relates to settler-colonialism!