challenging what you think you know about s*x + love.
Gabrielle Alexa Noel (she/her, 30 year old) is a bisexual writer/author. More »
I wrote a book! 📚
HOW TO LIVE WITH THE INTERNET (AND NOT LET IT RUN YOUR LIFE)
"Noel, a Black, bisexual, polyamorous influencer, and web developer, understands the pitfalls of the internet, but she also appreciates its duality." - Lady Science
WORK STUFF 🙄
Director of Marketing & Lead Portal Developer - #open
Our mission is simple: in a world that is far more complex than traditional dating norms allow, we are creating a community for queer, kinky, polyamorous, monogamish, consensually non-monogamous people, as well as those who are simply curious and desire to expand their boundaries.
influencer & very online person
In our unstable social media ecosystem, connecting with me here –– on my personal website –– is the easiest way to keep up with me! For some reason, I have over 30,000 followers on Instagram & 14,300 on Twitter.
@GABALEXA ON VIDEO 😊
I went on a blind date with a couple 👀
This is how I learned that my face is incredibly expressive. 😐
I'm Already In Two Relationships - Will My Date Judge Me?
This is another Blind Date for the Truly show. That man they set me up with was so fine, literally, but he moved like mad far and I wasn't with it.
Talked to Chatty Broads about purity culture & the sex resort I went to!
And we chatted about bisexuality & non-monogamy.
Red Table Talk: Is Polyamory For You?
I literally got flewed out with my bestie Gabrielle Smith to talk about polyamory with Jada, Willow, & Gammy.
@gabalexa's published writing
Miley Cyrus is right – there is no such thing as virginity
For Bi+ Folks, Therapy Can Be Radical Self-Care. But Only if Mental Health Providers ...
Miley Cyrus is right – there is no such thing as virginity
Written for The Independent - Not only has it been used to reward women who remain ‘pure’ with greater social capital, we’ve been pressured to center our entire sense of self-worth around a concept that isn’t real.
The Harlem Renaissance was as Queer as it was Black
For Bi+ Folks, Therapy Can Be Radical Self-Care. But Only if Mental Health Providers ...
Miley Cyrus is right – there is no such thing as virginity
Written for LGBTQ Nation - Beginning a century ago, Black LGBTQ entertainers & writers expressed their identities freely. We have them to thank for much of our present society..
For Bi+ Folks, Therapy Can Be Radical Self-Care. But Only if Mental Health Providers ...
For Bi+ Folks, Therapy Can Be Radical Self-Care. But Only if Mental Health Providers ...
For Bi+ Folks, Therapy Can Be Radical Self-Care. But Only if Mental Health Providers ...
Written for Slate - Young people who identify as bisexual are statistically more likely to self-injure, and I was no exception.
Stop Pretending That Bi+ Women Exist For You
Riverdale's Bernadette Beck on How the Show Fails Its Black Characters
For Bi+ Folks, Therapy Can Be Radical Self-Care. But Only if Mental Health Providers ...
Written for Killer And A Sweet Thing - When people are perceived as sexual objects, they’re viewed as something that can be used and discarded.
Riverdale's Bernadette Beck on How the Show Fails Its Black Characters
Riverdale's Bernadette Beck on How the Show Fails Its Black Characters
Riverdale's Bernadette Beck on How the Show Fails Its Black Characters
Written for Elle - “I was made out to be a very unlikable character and therefore, an unlikable person in people’s eyes,” she tells ELLE.com exclusively.
Greek Life Needs To Take Racism As Seriously As It Takes Hazing
Riverdale's Bernadette Beck on How the Show Fails Its Black Characters
Riverdale's Bernadette Beck on How the Show Fails Its Black Characters
Written for The Huffington Post - “I was made out to be a very unlikable character and therefore, an unlikable person in people’s eyes,” she tells ELLE.com exclusively.
FEATURED IN ...
These 22 Black Sex Educators Are Changing The Way We Think And Talk About Sex (BUZZFEED)
These 22 Black Sex Educators Are Changing The Way We Think And Talk About Sex (BUZZFEED)
These 22 Black Sex Educators Are Changing The Way We Think And Talk About Sex (BUZZFEED)
"The New York City–based creative recently published a collection of essays called How to Live With the Internet and Not Let It Run Your Life and has written for Cosmopolitan, Elle, Bitch, HuffPost, and Playboy."
Attn: You Can Be a Bisexual Dyke! Here’s Why Identifying as Both Is Valid (GREATIST)
These 22 Black Sex Educators Are Changing The Way We Think And Talk About Sex (BUZZFEED)
These 22 Black Sex Educators Are Changing The Way We Think And Talk About Sex (BUZZFEED)
"Gabrielle Alexa Noel, bisexual advocate, says it’s important to understand that [when the word 'dyke' was coined], all women who loved women — including those who also loved men (or other genders) — were considered lesbians and, therefore, would have been called dykes."
What Is Solo Polyamory? (Cosmopolitan)
These 22 Black Sex Educators Are Changing The Way We Think And Talk About Sex (BUZZFEED)
Compulsory Heterosexuality: What Is Comphet? (COSMOPOLITAN)
“'If you really prioritize alone time, if you don’t see yourself merging finances or moving in with a partner, and if you’re not interested in the institution of marriage, then maybe solo polyamory will be a good relational framework,' says Gabrielle Alexa Noel, director of marketing and lead portal developer at #open."
Compulsory Heterosexuality: What Is Comphet? (COSMOPOLITAN)
7 INCREDIBLE LGBTQ WOMEN TELL US WHAT THEY'RE CLAIMING SPACE FOR (LOGO)
Compulsory Heterosexuality: What Is Comphet? (COSMOPOLITAN)
“'The Lesbian Masterdoc, in particular, is viewed as like, the Sapphic Bible in some spaces and a lot of what is written there just imposes a label on experiences and behaviours that can also be bisexual/pansexual/queer,' explains bisexual author and advocate Gabrielle Alexa."
100 Women We Love: Class Of 2019 (Go Magazine)
7 INCREDIBLE LGBTQ WOMEN TELL US WHAT THEY'RE CLAIMING SPACE FOR (LOGO)
7 INCREDIBLE LGBTQ WOMEN TELL US WHAT THEY'RE CLAIMING SPACE FOR (LOGO)
"Gabrielle Noel has made it her mission to make people 'be more aware of the B’s and the T’s in this umbrella community.'"
7 INCREDIBLE LGBTQ WOMEN TELL US WHAT THEY'RE CLAIMING SPACE FOR (LOGO)
7 INCREDIBLE LGBTQ WOMEN TELL US WHAT THEY'RE CLAIMING SPACE FOR (LOGO)
7 INCREDIBLE LGBTQ WOMEN TELL US WHAT THEY'RE CLAIMING SPACE FOR (LOGO)
"I''ve been encouraged pretty much my whole life to be humble... I'm fearful of being read the wrong way, and it just clicked for me recently that I don't want to subscribe to that anymore."
How to Celebrate Pride if You Don't Want to Go to a Big Parade
The 9 Best Inclusive Sex Education Instagram Accounts to Follow Right Now (W + G)
How to Celebrate Pride if You Don't Want to Go to a Big Parade
“It’s not enough that [businesses] slap rainbows on a few shirt. Are they creating an intentional product? Are they giving their money to LGBTQ+ folks? Otherwise... why bother?"
What Does It Mean To Be Bi-Curious? (REFinery 29)
The 9 Best Inclusive Sex Education Instagram Accounts to Follow Right Now (W + G)
How to Celebrate Pride if You Don't Want to Go to a Big Parade
“To me, the term bi-curious reflects a belief that orientation is something you have to explore sexually and romantically before it's real, which I disagree with."
The 9 Best Inclusive Sex Education Instagram Accounts to Follow Right Now (W + G)
The 9 Best Inclusive Sex Education Instagram Accounts to Follow Right Now (W + G)
The 9 Best Inclusive Sex Education Instagram Accounts to Follow Right Now (W + G)
"Bicon (ahem, bisexual icon) Gabrielle Alexa Noel, creates content specifically for people who identify as bisexual and their supporting allies."
by @gabalexa - more writing
On R. Kelly and the Forgotten Survivors of #MeToo
If Louis CK can come back to a standing ovation, has MeToo really changed anything?
If Louis CK can come back to a standing ovation, has MeToo really changed anything?
Written for Playboy - "The downfall of R. Kelly happened piecemeal at first, then came down like a hammer this week after an interview he did with Gayle King hit the airwaves."
If Louis CK can come back to a standing ovation, has MeToo really changed anything?
If Louis CK can come back to a standing ovation, has MeToo really changed anything?
If Louis CK can come back to a standing ovation, has MeToo really changed anything?
Written for The Independent - "The disgraced comedian's victims deserve better than for us to let him slip quietly into the space he once occupied."
The story of 7 Black queer folks imprisoned for defending themselves
If Louis CK can come back to a standing ovation, has MeToo really changed anything?
The story of 7 Black queer folks imprisoned for defending themselves
Written for Black Youth Project - "Our legal system not only failed to protect the New Jersey 7, it criminalized them, and the media tarnished their reputations to boot. "
Why Everyone Is Obsessed With Ariana Grande's Bicurious Songs
How I Learned to Stop Performing Bisexuality and Start Actually Living It
The story of 7 Black queer folks imprisoned for defending themselves
Written for VICE - "There's no way for us to know if Ariana Grande is queer or not unless she tells us, and the act of speculating based on her music only perpetuates attitudes that contribute to the erasure of bisexual women."
How I Learned to Stop Performing Bisexuality and Start Actually Living It
How I Learned to Stop Performing Bisexuality and Start Actually Living It
How I Learned to Stop Performing Bisexuality and Start Actually Living It
Written for Elle - "Politically and religiously, I understood that same-sex relationships were seen as a moral failing in our culture. I planned to remain straight-passing for my entire life."
Bisexual+ Women Are Not Your Fantasy
How I Learned to Stop Performing Bisexuality and Start Actually Living It
How I Learned to Stop Performing Bisexuality and Start Actually Living It
Written for INTO - "We are marginalized in both straight and queer communities. We are seen as indecisive, greedy, promiscuous, dishonest, confused, and even sexually indiscriminate."